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Mending A Broken Heart: 3 Tips For Surviving A Breakup

May 14, 2015

There is a time to love and a time to let go. When a romantic relationship comes to an end, you may feel a variety of intense emotions, including sorrow and anger. You may feel completely lost, lonely, and unable to envision a life without your ex. While the aftermath of a breakup can seem daunting, the end of your relationship doesn’t have to mean the end of the world. The tips below will help you to mend your broken heart and move forward with hope for the future.

1. Avoid contact with your ex and reach out to friends for companionship: After a breakup, you may feel regret that the relationship is over and want desperately to contact your ex, however, doing so will leave you in emotional limbo and intensify your emotional pain. Contacting your ex will stifle your healing process and is similar to “rubbing salt in an open wound.” Keep in mind that the relationship ended for a reason and that a clean break will help to ease the pain as time passes. If you are feeling lonely, do not isolate yourself. Reach out to friends and try to spend time with them as often as possible. Doing so will distract you from thinking about how bad you feel and allow you to grow relationships that can only serve to improve your well-being.

2. Allow yourself to mourn the loss of the relationship: It is important to acknowledge that you feel pretty crummy. You may feel depressed and want to cry frequently. Don’t stifle those emotions and put on a fake smile! It’s ok to feel that way. If you don’t feel in the best of spirits, give yourself a hug and acknowledge that it hurts. It’s also a good idea to let others know that you are having a hard time coping. Doing so will allow others to support you and relieve the anxiety of having to fake it. Take some time out to think about your needs and what you want in life. Focus on loving and caring for yourself. Go to a coffee shop and read a great book, go get a massage, or take a long walk.

3. Find some fun new activities to engage in: Instead of sitting at home alone feeling blue, go out to a great concert or to a baseball game with friends. Consider taking a cooking class or learning to play the guitar. New hobbies such as hiking, traveling, or book clubs can also help you to feel less sad. Do whatever makes you feel alive and can bring a smile to your face!

Surviving a breakup is hard, but following the tips above can help you to enrich your soul and spirit. You can also visit iPrevail and chat with a peer support coach whenever you are feeling down. Prevail Health Solution’s peer support coaches are trained to help you tackle life’s challenges, find proactive solutions, and enhance your happiness.


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